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I should rephrase the question asked in the title - what can possibly cause a parent to harbor hatred for their own offspring?

I'm in my mid 30's now. I'm a veteran of the American armed forces. Single father to a boy who lives with me. I understand how money works. I own a single family home in an average neighborhood, and I keep the place looking sharp. I have a disposable income, a modern muscle car, and I spend my days lifting at a good gym.

My father at the same age was more prosperous than I am, but he resented me for existing. Until I was 18, I was unknowingly the product of his choices - scrawny, fearful of the world, too timid to talk to women, and my clothes looked like my family could only afford to shop at Goodwill. I confronted him when I was successful at 30, and he defended himself by saying I had a sense of entitlement.

I believe I have narcissistic abuse syndrome, and he thinks it's funny.

I know I'm not the only millennial with this story, and I want to know why.

I should rephrase the question asked in the title - what can possibly cause a parent to harbor hatred for their own offspring? I'm in my mid 30's now. I'm a veteran of the American armed forces. Single father to a boy who lives with me. I understand how money works. I own a single family home in an average neighborhood, and I keep the place looking sharp. I have a disposable income, a modern muscle car, and I spend my days lifting at a good gym. My father at the same age was more prosperous than I am, but he resented me for existing. Until I was 18, I was unknowingly the product of his choices - scrawny, fearful of the world, too timid to talk to women, and my clothes looked like my family could only afford to shop at Goodwill. I confronted him when I was successful at 30, and he defended himself by saying I had a sense of entitlement. I believe I have *narcissistic abuse syndrome*, and he thinks it's funny. I know I'm not the only millennial with this story, and I want to know why.

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The failures and degeneracy of the millenials were a mirror held up in the face of the boomers reminding them of what they enabled and created.

E: Maybe more toward your question, the boomers were targeted heavily with the muh career, muh toys, muh debt, muh retirement propaganda. They were told that all of those things trumped the traditional family unit and upholding and passing on a pure moral code. They believed all the lies and it was easily profitable for them to do so. They were told that children were a burden and in many ways they believed it. So some of them hate their own children both because the responsibility of raising kids took away from all the treats the jew dangled in front of them and because once the following generations began to implode, the boomers would have to accept that they were fooled.

They failed to recall this passage in Psalm 127:

3 Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.

4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.

5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.

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You've nailed the problem. Boomers don't hate Millennials, we hate ourselves for believing the indoctrination until it was too late to repair the damage.

"Profitable" wasn't a choice. We were given a single white collar path - either take it or never be able to afford near the lifestyle our Silent generation parents expected of us. Decent paying blue collar jobs were already destroyed the time boomers came of age, so many stampeded into technology and its salaried, at will, five years and gone 60+ hour weeks. At the same time medical and housing expenses soared (yay 14% mortgage interest) and two earner families became standard just to put food on the table and roof over the head. Boomer men were indoctrinated into believing toys were proof of manhood, boomer women told that we must wait or never have children or risk losing our husband. Only the laziest of women stayed home - even female comics joked relentlessly about the useless role of "housewife".

Through the 80's and 90's housing bubbles with "free money" equity loans destroyed many boomers who used them to achieve the aura of success that movies, news, advertising and society said was necessary for happiness. I don't know many boomers sitting on piles of money and most of them are still working into their retirement years.

Anyone of any generation who doesn't understand that this is a long term war against Western civilization is living in a black hole of ignorance. Further frustration is added by watching young people fall under the same destructive influences. The story has changed ("education" now provides the ruinous debt) while the final effect is the same. Destruction of another Western generation.

(for OP) So sorry that you think your father was rough - but the most difficult thing to say to your children is "no". Would you have been successful if you had a cushy, no knock life? Most successful people I've known came up from adversity. Most failures I've met were third generation trust fund turds.