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I should rephrase the question asked in the title - what can possibly cause a parent to harbor hatred for their own offspring?

I'm in my mid 30's now. I'm a veteran of the American armed forces. Single father to a boy who lives with me. I understand how money works. I own a single family home in an average neighborhood, and I keep the place looking sharp. I have a disposable income, a modern muscle car, and I spend my days lifting at a good gym.

My father at the same age was more prosperous than I am, but he resented me for existing. Until I was 18, I was unknowingly the product of his choices - scrawny, fearful of the world, too timid to talk to women, and my clothes looked like my family could only afford to shop at Goodwill. I confronted him when I was successful at 30, and he defended himself by saying I had a sense of entitlement.

I believe I have narcissistic abuse syndrome, and he thinks it's funny.

I know I'm not the only millennial with this story, and I want to know why.

I should rephrase the question asked in the title - what can possibly cause a parent to harbor hatred for their own offspring? I'm in my mid 30's now. I'm a veteran of the American armed forces. Single father to a boy who lives with me. I understand how money works. I own a single family home in an average neighborhood, and I keep the place looking sharp. I have a disposable income, a modern muscle car, and I spend my days lifting at a good gym. My father at the same age was more prosperous than I am, but he resented me for existing. Until I was 18, I was unknowingly the product of his choices - scrawny, fearful of the world, too timid to talk to women, and my clothes looked like my family could only afford to shop at Goodwill. I confronted him when I was successful at 30, and he defended himself by saying I had a sense of entitlement. I believe I have *narcissistic abuse syndrome*, and he thinks it's funny. I know I'm not the only millennial with this story, and I want to know why.

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My father was brilliant, and has even been redpilled on the JQ and other serious things. He is one of the boomers who recognizes what was done to the younger generations and has gone far out of his way trying to help his kids through monetary gifts, support and advice when needed.

My mother, on the other hand, is the quintessential narcissistic boomer who divorced my father in her 50's so she could be a slut around town. Never once did she apply for a job, never once has she worried about retirement. Never once has she treated her children as anything other than a race-horse, or a problem. She is a typical man-hater type who grew up in the 70's and could never forgive me for the crime of being a white male child. She barely communicates with any family members unless she wants something from them and she rages about how evil her father was for having basic fucking standards and delivering reasonable discipline.

She is the most self-centered person I've ever met. If you aren't something she can use as a tool, or that she can show off to her friends, you're dead to her. I'm quite successful and in my early 30's and she'll communicate with me only when her boyfriend is out of town and she wants something. On the occasion I speak to her about realistic matters like "I've been treated poorly my entire life due to who I am as a white man" she tends to respond with "Well it's your turn to be treated like shit. Women used to have it bad." She took out her own insurance policy for a nursing home because she's well aware that none of her kids are going to be willing to participate in caring for her in old age.

You can sit down in front of her and show her videos and she'll simply stick her nose up and say "that didn't happen" to photographic evidence. The sorts of people are the trash of our society and the sooner they die off, the better. Though I guarantee that her life goal will be to destroy any inheritance she might create before dying. If she can't use it, it doesn't matter. I can only imagine how hellish life would have been if she divorced my father when I was a child rather than when I was a late teenager.