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As the title says. I'm turning 33 in a few weeks, and in repair mode from a decade of nihilism and stupid choices. Once I hit 30, I realized this is serious, and I no longer have some endless infinite amount of time in front of me... made a lot of drastic decisions like ghosting all of my deadbeat friends, and establishing something long term for myself. Fast forward to now, I have a pretty good career in software development and started a small home repair type business which could hopefully turn into something big as time goes on. Mentally I'm in a far better place as well, with a positive outlook on the future. But the truth is, I'm lost with finding a quality girl, and part of me feels like its too late as its something I had to figure out in my late teens or early 20's.

With that said, what traits or actions should I (or anyone) possess to increase the odds of finding someone who is a keeper? This place has a way with honesty and bluntness, which is exactly why I'm asking this here. Thanks.

As the title says. I'm turning 33 in a few weeks, and in repair mode from a decade of nihilism and stupid choices. Once I hit 30, I realized this is serious, and I no longer have some endless infinite amount of time in front of me... made a lot of drastic decisions like ghosting all of my deadbeat friends, and establishing something long term for myself. Fast forward to now, I have a pretty good career in software development and started a small home repair type business which could hopefully turn into something big as time goes on. Mentally I'm in a far better place as well, with a positive outlook on the future. But the truth is, I'm lost with finding a quality girl, and part of me feels like its too late as its something I had to figure out in my late teens or early 20's. With that said, what traits or actions should I (or anyone) possess to increase the odds of finding someone who is a keeper? This place has a way with honesty and bluntness, which is exactly why I'm asking this here. Thanks.

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Thanks!

My mother had 5 children from the age of 31-41. Genetically I'm lucky there. I'm not too worried, it just would have been nice to have a family at 25 and be in a more stable position. Starting around 28 will still give me a few years on her.

I have a potential co-parent stopping by next week to help put with some electrical work on my home. In exchange I'm building him a company website to help him get out of a job he hates and start his entrepreneurial adventures.

But yeah, you don't need to be worried at all either. Men have way longer than girls to get their shit in order. Our generation is babied for so long they don't remotely act like adults until their mid-20's. As long as you care for your body you can score one! Just don't give up even when things go bad. If you ever need a lift-me-up ask about some of my horrific dates when I was still a socially retarded moron. Lol. It gets easier.