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As the title says. I'm turning 33 in a few weeks, and in repair mode from a decade of nihilism and stupid choices. Once I hit 30, I realized this is serious, and I no longer have some endless infinite amount of time in front of me... made a lot of drastic decisions like ghosting all of my deadbeat friends, and establishing something long term for myself. Fast forward to now, I have a pretty good career in software development and started a small home repair type business which could hopefully turn into something big as time goes on. Mentally I'm in a far better place as well, with a positive outlook on the future. But the truth is, I'm lost with finding a quality girl, and part of me feels like its too late as its something I had to figure out in my late teens or early 20's.

With that said, what traits or actions should I (or anyone) possess to increase the odds of finding someone who is a keeper? This place has a way with honesty and bluntness, which is exactly why I'm asking this here. Thanks.

As the title says. I'm turning 33 in a few weeks, and in repair mode from a decade of nihilism and stupid choices. Once I hit 30, I realized this is serious, and I no longer have some endless infinite amount of time in front of me... made a lot of drastic decisions like ghosting all of my deadbeat friends, and establishing something long term for myself. Fast forward to now, I have a pretty good career in software development and started a small home repair type business which could hopefully turn into something big as time goes on. Mentally I'm in a far better place as well, with a positive outlook on the future. But the truth is, I'm lost with finding a quality girl, and part of me feels like its too late as its something I had to figure out in my late teens or early 20's. With that said, what traits or actions should I (or anyone) possess to increase the odds of finding someone who is a keeper? This place has a way with honesty and bluntness, which is exactly why I'm asking this here. Thanks.

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What’s the shit test

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Well, in reverse of what many seem to typically guess, it's actually an indication of interest of some kind. A woman will never give someone attention if they're indifferent. The only exception is when she gathers simps. A shit test, to be short, is a challenge of your ability to guide, protect or provide. If you do not pass, you're just some other uninteresting simp of which there is no shortage. What is in shortage, however, in most women's minds these days, if nothing else, is a man that can guide, protect or provide. You aim is to fall in the latter category; at least to interest her enough to explore you further.

Just remember, all publicity is good publicity. If a woman tells you how disgusting you are, you win (but maybe you should dial it back a little so people don't begin to conspire at your expense). If you make them gasp, you win. If you arouse them, you clearly win. If you anger them, you win again. If you trigger them, you still win.

*as a side note: Women are conquered, not won.