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As the title says. I'm turning 33 in a few weeks, and in repair mode from a decade of nihilism and stupid choices. Once I hit 30, I realized this is serious, and I no longer have some endless infinite amount of time in front of me... made a lot of drastic decisions like ghosting all of my deadbeat friends, and establishing something long term for myself. Fast forward to now, I have a pretty good career in software development and started a small home repair type business which could hopefully turn into something big as time goes on. Mentally I'm in a far better place as well, with a positive outlook on the future. But the truth is, I'm lost with finding a quality girl, and part of me feels like its too late as its something I had to figure out in my late teens or early 20's.

With that said, what traits or actions should I (or anyone) possess to increase the odds of finding someone who is a keeper? This place has a way with honesty and bluntness, which is exactly why I'm asking this here. Thanks.

As the title says. I'm turning 33 in a few weeks, and in repair mode from a decade of nihilism and stupid choices. Once I hit 30, I realized this is serious, and I no longer have some endless infinite amount of time in front of me... made a lot of drastic decisions like ghosting all of my deadbeat friends, and establishing something long term for myself. Fast forward to now, I have a pretty good career in software development and started a small home repair type business which could hopefully turn into something big as time goes on. Mentally I'm in a far better place as well, with a positive outlook on the future. But the truth is, I'm lost with finding a quality girl, and part of me feels like its too late as its something I had to figure out in my late teens or early 20's. With that said, what traits or actions should I (or anyone) possess to increase the odds of finding someone who is a keeper? This place has a way with honesty and bluntness, which is exactly why I'm asking this here. Thanks.

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Now that I'm not as inebriated, I will attempt to give you quality advice. Establish yourself, keep building your business and in a few years you can marry a younger woman. Your value in the eyes of women is only going up, as long as you aren't getting fat, weak and ugly as time passes. Be an ultra conservative traditional white male. Demand for real men is only increasing. We're approaching an era where females will reject soy faggots and crave masculinity. Keep building yourself and soon the women will be lining up. I'm willing to bet there are women who want you right now, but they may not be up to an acceptable standard. Don't compromise. Be patient.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

I'm responding late, but thank you for your advice. A simpler version of what you said existed in my mind in a blurrier, more ambiguous way, and its very helpful to read that concrete explanation. I just have to continue doing exactly what I'm doing right now. I feel very good about the future. Thanks again and happy 4th.