Well first off are you a sperg with women in the first place? That has a lot to do with it. Do you have a wide range of hobbies and interests? Are you a well rounded individual? Are you actually truly happy by yourself?
I'm 30 and married with a baby on the way. She's five years younger than me. We've been at it for three years now.
I was on a Facebook group about philosophy and I added her. We didn't really talk for a year, she wished me happy birthday and I ignored it. Then she posted something that sounded kinda intelligent so I messaged her and picked her brain a little bit to see if she was reasonably intelligent.
One of the biggest things that speaks to me is music so I started sending her some of my favorites with no context and said "thoughts?" to see how she reacted. Very positive reception and she sent the same type of stuff back.
I would do these same tests on countless other women and they all failed miserably. I needed someone who would hear this random song and jump out of their seat the same way I did and go "this is the best shit I've heard in my fucking life. You listen to this stuff? You must have a beautiful soul".
Which is more or less exactly what happened. So at first she was an online girlfriend and then became much more.
I'm not sure there is any way to increase the likelihood or the odds of finding a good woman because I did everything I thought would work and absolutely nothing came of it.
I found her in a place I was not even looking, on a site I didn't care about, after years of looking pretty much everywhere else and having pretty much completely given up. She was a US citizen living in Costa Rica at the time, so it wasn't even in the same fucking state or country either.
But I had constructed myself in such a way that if and when the opportunity came, I was ready.
Oh and by the way she was a liberal when we started talking. So try not to attach stupid stipulations to the equation. It's not about all of that, you have to learn to identify the important underlying characteristics in a woman. After that it doesn't matter what she believes. You'll be able to make her understand pretty seamlessly.
That's why I always did that music litmus test, and other things like that. Because these are pieces of my soul. It doesn't change. Either someone understands my soul and loves it, or not. For example, you can give a Ferrari to a nigger in Africa and he'll just start screaming and chucking spears at it. But if you give it to the right person, they'll immediately recognize it's value. Love is the same way.
No idea if any of this helps because your question was fucking stupid in the first place. But all the other replies were garbage and I've had a lot of success in this regard so I felt compelled share.
Good luck. And here's a piece of my soul to you.
It sure is a stupid question someone my age shouldn't be asking, but I am sincerely working to change my life so it is worth the scrutiny. That had to be an awesome feeling meeting someone that aligns with you so much. I've had small glimpses of that with random girls in the past, and even if we aren't particularly interested in each other the attraction level jumps a lot because it must be an uncommon thing to experience.
Anyway, thanks for your response, I definitely see the value in doing that. Its an effective way to quickly determine if you guys are on the same wavelength with things.
I've had small glimpses of that with random girls in the past, and even if we aren't particularly interested in each other the attraction level jumps a lot because it must be an uncommon thing to experience.
Those are your clues that will lead you home. It's like a puzzle piece shaped hole in your heart, you might find a lot of puzzle pieces that are quite similar but don't quite fit correctly. Those women in your life give you clues what woman you should be looking for, and can often be surprising or not what you expected.
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