Stoicism is the answer. The best advice you could ever receive about women is simply this: put zero, absolutely zero stock in to anything that comes out of any woman's mouth. Court attention at all cost. The only time to defend yourself is in public when your reputation is at immediate risk. This is the only time you're allowed to apologize. Going to women for advice is like a hunter asking a rabbit how it'd like to be shot. You seriously think it's going to tell you? You ask another hunter, "hey, man, can you show me how to get better at hunting?"

If you do nothing else, quit masturbating and using porn, work out with no exceptions at least five times a week, actually read some damn books and get your money going. Quit your job and get that business up and running. Be financially independent. Now, as for finding women that might be worth it - good luck. Let me know when you find a good place. To be a little more serious though, women are very malleable. Find one that doesn't have tattoos and seems to dress with some modesty. Screen early on by asking about how she feels about the internet at large. Inquire about how many kinds of social media she uses. Ask how often she's on tiktok, twitter, instagram, etc. Ask if she's done online dating before (instant next on a yes). Keep in mind, there's many out there that don't use them.

Other than that just wear clothes that fit, wear something that smells nice, smile at people and be willing to talk to someone even if someone might hear you. If you can do those things while not being fat, especially if you're just in basically good shape, you're doing better than the vast majority of guys out there. Last thing: women can always tell if you're low T. Notice the shit test and either agree and amplify or just give a simple chuckle.

If she is straightforward, honest (even if she too has made a few poor decisions in the past), willing to communicate, thinks beyond material things, and values family I think you should give her a chance.

Check out Meetups (not a dating site) and filter for groups interested in outdoors, foraging, fishing, conservative/republican, libertarian, car shows/mechanical, trade workers, etc. Get to know women in those types of groups. Even if some only want to be friends, network from there. Chances are they know someone looking to date and you can be "referred" by someone who knows your not a creep lol

Theres always church groups too, but that can be hit or miss

Women want someone that follows through, doesn’t play games, is capable, provides, is supportive, is honest but not too honest (at least at the beginning), is respectful, is hard working, smells nice 😂…

And, I’d cast a wide net. It’s a numbers game. You may have to go through 20 dates, but don’t give up. There are good women your age out there everywhere but you have to approach finding them with a plan of massive action. Don’t give up! Keep chugging along no matter how painful or how much work it is. And don’t get discouraged. You’re the man, you ultimately have time … but if you want it all right now, you gotta put in the work.

You got this!

Now that I'm not as inebriated, I will attempt to give you quality advice. Establish yourself, keep building your business and in a few years you can marry a younger woman. Your value in the eyes of women is only going up, as long as you aren't getting fat, weak and ugly as time passes. Be an ultra conservative traditional white male. Demand for real men is only increasing. We're approaching an era where females will reject soy faggots and crave masculinity. Keep building yourself and soon the women will be lining up. I'm willing to bet there are women who want you right now, but they may not be up to an acceptable standard. Don't compromise. Be patient.

Have a big dick. I don't know how else to help you. Worked for me, but I still hate women.

Don't be a fucking pussy.

Be a pussy-fucker.

I'm in a similar situation. Me and my ex-fiance were about to buy a house and start our family and he bailed at the last second. I had to get my shit in order to afford the home alone and now I've just turned 27. I'm starting my first company, but super behind on family now. Probably going to co-parent or use a doner and have kids alone. I'm too old to start a relationship from scratch.

I'm not sure what advice to give. Here are some random things that might help:

• You can literally meet a chill girl anywhere. Some people say avoid dating apps. They can be a powerful tool if you learn to use them correctly and ignore bad traffic. Make a good profile explaining what you want and don't waste weeks/months chatting someone up. Be direct about meeting within a week or two in person and limit mobile communication to see if they're serious or not. Get to know them in the real world. Many girls will drag that shit on forever online.

• Meeting in real life is awesome. Church, gym, grocery store, hobby groups. Men almost never approach me and I'm one of the good looking ones. Especially not since COVID. I have literally not heard of a single couple that hasn't met each other through school or online dating. Start practicing smiling and waving at strangers. Move onto small chat with mothers/older men you pass. Once you get good at it move towards potential girlfriends. It's hard to learn to be chatty if you're socially retarded or an introvert. So practice it well.

• Workout. Care for your body. I would never consider even using someone as a doner if they didn't so much as respect their own bodies. Work really hard to look good. Be proud. Be confident. Even if you're on the older side we are a part of the loneliest generation who has never known true compassion and love in a romantic manner. You can take someone who is a little broken and glue them into a whole person and suitable life partner.

Women want a man that's capable.

1. Be attractive
2. Don't be unattractive

If you aren't fit and have your style dialed in, I would start with that. You didn't mention it so make sure you are hitting the gym eating good food and a good weight.

Make sure you eliminate as many things about yourself that are unattractive as you can. Do you come across as confident to women? Are you needy or validation seeking?

There is a lot of garbage in the "redpill" manosphere space but one guy who doesn't have patience for bullshit is Rian Stone. That guy cuts the important actions from the bullshit so check him out for solid advice.

Don't search out women. Don't stress " Omg I'm alone and will never find the one". Build a quality life for yourself , and be open to meeting someone , but don't feel like you HAVE to.

I would suggest attending a smaller independent church , Baptist , or maybe non denominational. You don't have to agree with all of their doctrine , but generally they're quality conservative people , may find some acceptable ladies there.

Well first off are you a sperg with women in the first place? That has a lot to do with it. Do you have a wide range of hobbies and interests? Are you a well rounded individual? Are you actually truly happy by yourself?

I'm 30 and married with a baby on the way. She's five years younger than me. We've been at it for three years now.

I was on a Facebook group about philosophy and I added her. We didn't really talk for a year, she wished me happy birthday and I ignored it. Then she posted something that sounded kinda intelligent so I messaged her and picked her brain a little bit to see if she was reasonably intelligent.

One of the biggest things that speaks to me is music so I started sending her some of my favorites with no context and said "thoughts?" to see how she reacted. Very positive reception and she sent the same type of stuff back.

I would do these same tests on countless other women and they all failed miserably. I needed someone who would hear this random song and jump out of their seat the same way I did and go "this is the best shit I've heard in my fucking life. You listen to this stuff? You must have a beautiful soul".

Which is more or less exactly what happened. So at first she was an online girlfriend and then became much more.

I'm not sure there is any way to increase the likelihood or the odds of finding a good woman because I did everything I thought would work and absolutely nothing came of it.

I found her in a place I was not even looking, on a site I didn't care about, after years of looking pretty much everywhere else and having pretty much completely given up. She was a US citizen living in Costa Rica at the time, so it wasn't even in the same fucking state or country either.

But I had constructed myself in such a way that if and when the opportunity came, I was ready.

Oh and by the way she was a liberal when we started talking. So try not to attach stupid stipulations to the equation. It's not about all of that, you have to learn to identify the important underlying characteristics in a woman. After that it doesn't matter what she believes. You'll be able to make her understand pretty seamlessly.

That's why I always did that music litmus test, and other things like that. Because these are pieces of my soul. It doesn't change. Either someone understands my soul and loves it, or not. For example, you can give a Ferrari to a nigger in Africa and he'll just start screaming and chucking spears at it. But if you give it to the right person, they'll immediately recognize it's value. Love is the same way.

No idea if any of this helps because your question was fucking stupid in the first place. But all the other replies were garbage and I've had a lot of success in this regard so I felt compelled share.

Good luck. And here's a piece of my soul to you.

https://youtu.be/rquqd74nx0U