I read all the replies. I was in the same situation. 11 years married and my ex started caring less and talking less. Started to criticize all things we'd like doing together. The whole time i was trying to spice shit up with our marriage nothing was working. She wouldnt send a topless pic to me for anything in the world. Then i got in to her phone. Bitch was doing everything i was trying to get her to do for years she was doing with some piece of shit white trash brother of her best friend. Sucks bad. I loved her. But i got the kids and the house and kept all my heard earned money. Now shes broke living in a trailer and cant see her kids cuz douchbag boyfriend is a felon amd i have a protective order on him so he cant come with in 1000m of my kids.
Get a god damn lawyer. If shes never in 13 years is doing something behind your back chances are its been going on for a while. But hey thats me not you. But ive learned all women are pretty much thr same.
Thank you for the advice. I do not disregard it, though I hope for the best.
Prepare for the worst but hope for the best so you don't sour it with a bad attitude. Document these with photos, see if they've been sent to anyone, etc. Don't bring it up, just have that info and see how it agrees with anything she tells you about them over time. Either way, you either validate what she says and have greater trust, or have evidence if she lies, and you know for sure that things go deeper than she's letting on so you won't be a chump.
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