Thank you for the advice. I do not disregard it, though I hope for the best.
Prepare for the worst but hope for the best so you don't sour it with a bad attitude. Document these with photos, see if they've been sent to anyone, etc. Don't bring it up, just have that info and see how it agrees with anything she tells you about them over time. Either way, you either validate what she says and have greater trust, or have evidence if she lies, and you know for sure that things go deeper than she's letting on so you won't be a chump.
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