I read all the replies. I was in the same situation. 11 years married and my ex started caring less and talking less. Started to criticize all things we'd like doing together. The whole time i was trying to spice shit up with our marriage nothing was working. She wouldnt send a topless pic to me for anything in the world. Then i got in to her phone. Bitch was doing everything i was trying to get her to do for years she was doing with some piece of shit white trash brother of her best friend. Sucks bad. I loved her. But i got the kids and the house and kept all my heard earned money. Now shes broke living in a trailer and cant see her kids cuz douchbag boyfriend is a felon amd i have a protective order on him so he cant come with in 1000m of my kids. Get a god damn lawyer. If shes never in 13 years is doing something behind your back chances are its been going on for a while. But hey thats me not you. But ive learned all women are pretty much thr same.