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So this is mostly a question I ask and i notice the answers i get back are pure fear, its almost hilarious. I was talking to my friend from church, and i was explaining that i do not see a point to friends, or dating, or any of this new age crap that is called socialization. Sure, i can have friends, but honestly, i am happier being with my dog than with people a lot of times. I also have a habit of using defensive socialization, and will always ere on me not being wanted, over being in a situation where i feel wanted. One of my primary mantras is to never assume attraction where none exists, and this could be for anything from dating, to making friends, to anything in between.

And yet, i seem to have pissed off a lot of people over this. I look around and i can visibly tell people are angry at me over something, i cant tell what it is, i cant tell why, but people seem to be abrupt, or even hostile at times. Maybe it is just the way they are, but i personally can tell these people hate me, and they are just hiding their true feelings from me.

So this is mostly a question I ask and i notice the answers i get back are pure fear, its almost hilarious. I was talking to my friend from church, and i was explaining that i do not see a point to friends, or dating, or any of this new age crap that is called socialization. Sure, i can have friends, but honestly, i am happier being with my dog than with people a lot of times. I also have a habit of using defensive socialization, and will always ere on me not being wanted, over being in a situation where i feel wanted. One of my primary mantras is to never assume attraction where none exists, and this could be for anything from dating, to making friends, to anything in between. And yet, i seem to have pissed off a lot of people over this. I look around and i can visibly tell people are angry at me over something, i cant tell what it is, i cant tell why, but people seem to be abrupt, or even hostile at times. Maybe it is just the way they are, but i personally can tell these people hate me, and they are just hiding their true feelings from me.

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Deep emotional abuse from my parents and the eventual fracturing of many relationships which were destroyed by my mom, alongside the death of my wife.

That'll do it... Jesus man. Like said people and they fear people who aren't social.

One of my primary mantras is to never assume attraction

This is good for your personal mental health but it turns people off and makes them wary. If you can, do the opposite and pretend there is attraction while in social situations until you can bail and decompress. You'll find that it puts other people ease with you and greases the social gears until you can be alone. Sorta like booze without drinking.