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This users comment got me thinking about it. It occurs to me that men do enjoy a certain privilege that women do not. We can start families in our 40s and build a strong healthy family by the time we pass away. Women are more or less excluded from this.

So is starting a family late in life a good idea? (Remember, Hitler was sired when his father was 55 years old.) Opinions and first-hand experience welcome.

https://poal.co/s/News/368212/d6b7cc34-c019-4fb2-b470-865d5a353bef#cmnts This users comment got me thinking about it. It occurs to me that men do enjoy a certain privilege that women do not. We can start families in our 40s and build a strong healthy family by the time we pass away. Women are more or less excluded from this. So is starting a family late in life a good idea? (Remember, Hitler was sired when his father was 55 years old.) Opinions and first-hand experience welcome.

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[–] • 3 pts

No, because you want to act as a strong patriarch and leave behind plenty for your children and grandchildren. If you have kids too late you are likely to die before your grandchildren are even old enough to remember you.

You also want to find a suitable wife ASAP. The good ones will have younger men already courting them by the time you're 40. That leaves "having more money" as the deciding factor, and you might get left with an immature golddigger.

Life doesn't always work out the way you expect. I had a finance and we bought a house and started on kids when I was 26. Two miscarriages later everything fell apart and I ended up owning a house alone. Now gotta regroup and probably have kids alone or with a co-parent. I don't see it happening until I'm ~28. Not great, but you gotta work with what you can.

If you do it early enough you'll have time to regroup and make a new gameplan if life implodes on you. If you're older and lose the oppertunity it could be tremendously difficult to recoup and get back on track in a timely manner. Especially if you are unlucky enough to develop something like cancer or an illness that makes it impossible to have children anymore.

Do the hard part now so you are secure with your future and your bloodline. Then you can sit back and enjoy the "later" knowing the most important and difficult parts are said and done with.

[–] • 1 pt

Most reasonable response so far.

[–] • 0 pt

Or you take care of yourself and find a woman in her 20s when you're more established in your 40s and enjoy the best of both worlds.

[–] • 1 pt

You're looking at a very small market, bud.

Most sane girls don't want to marry men twice their age and have to spend such a large part of their lives as a widow.

[–] • 0 pt (edited )

Get in better shape, read more, learn new skills, make sure you're great in bed, etc.

40 year old man and 25-30 year old woman. How is that twice their age?

Women love status and power and men love youth and beauty. You can't expect a young(er) woman to be with you if you're a bum but if you're desirable, there's no issue.

Edit: i see the way i phrased my initial comment and it does sound like double their age. My point still stands- if you're an "average" man, this will be difficult.