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I would argue that the answer is objectively no: love has conditions. You will not love a partner that lets themselves go and eats garbage everyday. You will not love a partner that betrays your trust in them. There are conditions that must be met for one individual to love another, and a failure to meet said conditions results in the degradation and eventual failure of the relationship.

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I would argue that the answer is objectively no: love has conditions. You will not love a partner that lets themselves go and eats garbage everyday. You will not love a partner that betrays your trust in them. There are conditions that must be met for one individual to love another, and a failure to meet said conditions results in the degradation and eventual failure of the relationship. Your thoughts?

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[–] • 4 pts

I do not think that once you love a person, you can decide to stop. Even in the case where the person becomes a crazy drug abuser who is a shadow of who they once were, you still love and mourn the loss of that person. You'll still look for the person inside of that darkness, until you have to make a decision removed from emotion to let them go.

I think your understanding of love is rather shallow. You don't love a person for what they do for you. You love a person and desire to do for them. You desire to put them first. It can be a feeling, but most often it is a verb. It's work. Love is not this thing that you feel at the beginning of a good relationship. That's just lust and titillation. And the way you feel about a person who betrays you with lies, or cheating, or whatever, is hurt. You feel hurt, because you still love them. And the love makes it hurt all the more.

The hurt doesn't take away the love.

[–] • 1 pt

I would agree with your sentiments.

Love is a process, it begins with what you thought was love with those girls. And through time your heart and mind weigh what quality you have. It becomes a commitment, a verb, at the point that you decide that you'd rather go through the worst you can imagine with a person, and try to support them so that it's not so bad, than not be with them(for better and for worse isn't just a cliche term in vows). No person is ever perfect, we are all messed up in some way. But when you find the right person, it becomes worth overlooking the faults. And some people are significantly easier to love than others. Some people make it impossible to love them. Some people aren't ready to love, or be loved.

The best thing you can do is find a person who has consideration of these things as you begin to date. And you should also have these things in mind as you begin to date. It will stop you from being frivolous with your time and energy. Even the women you consider throwaways and one night stands take away from you. While you're with them, you won't find anything else because your mind and goals are wrong, and you compromise your future self both through potential disease and offspring. You can't be dual minded.