@metalaegis I would agree with your sentiments. Love is a process, it begins with what you thought was love with those girls. And through time your heart and mind weigh what quality you have. It becomes a commitment, a verb, at the point that you decide that you'd rather go through the worst you can imagine with a person, and try to support them so that it's not so bad, than not be with them(for better and for worse isn't just a cliche term in vows). No person is ever perfect, we are all messed up in some way. But when you find the right person, it becomes worth overlooking the faults. And some people are significantly easier to love than others. Some people make it impossible to love them. Some people aren't ready to love, or be loved. The best thing you can do is find a person who has consideration of these things as you begin to date. And you should also have these things in mind as you begin to date. It will stop you from being frivolous with your time and energy. Even the women you consider throwaways and one night stands take away from you. While you're with them, you won't find anything else because your mind and goals are wrong, and you compromise your future self both through potential disease and offspring. You can't be dual minded.