You have to get out and meet new people.That's critical. If you only talk to the same people in certain circles, you're only going to get the same old stuff. It's kinda like dating in that respect.
Socialize in your community. Volunteer work is good for this (for the same reasons I listed previously), and it doesn't have to take more than a few hours at a time. I'm not a churchgoer, but I hear of people taking on fellow parishioners.
If you have a particular hobby that has Meetups, you could try that. I know some artsy types who got writing gigs that way (shit tier, but it's something).
Networking events are a kinda lame shotgun approach to job-hunting, but it's something.
And I hate to say it, but it has come up too often to be deniable--bars. I've known a couple of people who got jobs because they had a good time at a bar with someone who was hiring or hiring for their company. It is the most illogical way I can think of to get a new employee, but there it is. If you're a drinker, go someplace new, be presentable, and don't get sloppy.
If you do these things, you need to know it's not a one-and-done. You can't just do it two or three times and say, "Shit! That didn't work!"
Stupid as it is, the social aspects can be more important than qualifications. Most people are qualified to do something, but the deciding factor (even for me) will probably be whether or not people like you personally. Maya Angelou was right-- "People won't remember what you said or did, but they'll remember how you made them feel."
TL/DR? Be consistent, make the effort to meet new people, be open and friendly, take on tasks with a smile.
Thanks for the tips.
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