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When my parents divorced, my dad got me and my sister every other weekend. That's what the divorce decree said. It was supposed to eventually kick into overnights but that never happened (that's a story for another time)

My mom told me she wanted it to where if me and my sister wanted to see our dad the following weekend instead of waiting two weeks, we could do so. However, when she would ask my dad if we could go over, he would say that it wasn't his weekend.

My mom says that my dad wouldn't have gotten in legal trouble if he didn't follow the visitation rules of the divorce decree. Like he took me and my sister on Mother's Day and not on Father's Day.

So my question is, if my dad didn't follow the visitation schedule exactly as written, would he have gotten in trouble?

And no my mom probably wouldn't have taken to court over that. They had their issues but wouldn't have done that. Eventually he took my mom to court and he lost visitation rights due to harming mine and my sister's emotional well-being. He was your typical "Nice Guy" with other problems added. Part of why they got divorced

When my parents divorced, my dad got me and my sister every other weekend. That's what the divorce decree said. It was supposed to eventually kick into overnights but that never happened (that's a story for another time) My mom told me she wanted it to where if me and my sister wanted to see our dad the following weekend instead of waiting two weeks, we could do so. However, when she would ask my dad if we could go over, he would say that it wasn't his weekend. My mom says that my dad wouldn't have gotten in legal trouble if he didn't follow the visitation rules of the divorce decree. Like he took me and my sister on Mother's Day and not on Father's Day. So my question is, if my dad didn't follow the visitation schedule exactly as written, would he have gotten in trouble? And no my mom probably wouldn't have taken to court over that. They had their issues but wouldn't have done that. Eventually he took my mom to court and he lost visitation rights due to harming mine and my sister's emotional well-being. He was your typical "Nice Guy" with other problems added. Part of why they got divorced

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The visitation order gives the non-custodial parent the right to visitation but it does not require them to do so. The court is going to be fine with parents allowing additional flexibility for the non-custodial parent as long it is amicable between both parents. I'm going by what is legal in my state, I can't say for Connecticut, although I'd bet it is similar.

There must have been more going on for your dad to lose visitation.

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He was verbally abusive towards me and my sister. It was more directed at my sister than me. He was also not capable of taking care of me and my sister. That was the case even when my parents were married.

If you've read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover, my dad is suffering from nice guy syndrome and severe negativity

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Well, that is unfortunate, not something young people should have to endure from a parent.