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All of the men in my life now that i am 45, i don't trust that their answers are honest, and it's a real issue for me.

All of the men in my life now that i am 45, i don't trust that their answers are honest, and it's a real issue for me.

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[–] • 19 pts

Stop being fuckin shallow if you aren't attracted to your wife for more than her physical body then your marriage is a sham.

[–] • 6 pts

This is it. At this point, if your only attracted to your wife physically. You are the problem for riding the pretend marriage while i fuck the hot chick truck.

If you rode that vehicle, and are now realizing it. Your 45. Its not too late. You aren't old, and if you have taken care of yourself, finding an appropriate person is a matter of going out and doing the things you like to do That is what people find attractive. But first you have to admit you've made a mistake, and do the hard part and man the fuck up and move on.

Or you could do the hard part and man the fuck up and get to know this person you've been fucking for years, and actually learn to work through problems.

[–] • 6 pts

If your wife has left herself go, became overweight/obese, isn't taking care of the house/kids. Tell her she needs to shape up. exercise with her, get the kids to help with the house, make a game of it. like who can clean their room the fastest etc. From a superficial standpoint if the man is taking care of his health and his family, his wife should be the same. The amount of older men that look miserable married to 300lb harpies who are into "woke" culture is scary.

[–] • 4 pts

You really need to focus on what it is emotionally, spiritually, socially, whatever, attractive about your wife rather than physical beauty. As others have said, it is a bit shallow to focus solely on physical beauty, but I do understand that it is difficult to watch the beauty fade.

stop looking at porn, stop looking at all the bikini ads and other half-naked 20-somethings on the internet. consuming that garbage will only drive you into a more unhappy state, and give you unrealistic expectations for your wife. turn off the tv, turn off the computer. go play cards or a board game with your wife and develop your relationship based on something other than physical beauty.

good luck and God bless.

[–] [deleted] • 3 pts

Go deaf and blind like a good white man.

[–] • 1 pt

45? Ha! Wait until you're 60 or 70. That's the real test.

[–] • 1 pt

Any children? Is she a good woman/mother?

[–] • 1 pt

"Sexy" comes to mean whatever you associate with great sex. If you maintain an great sex life, she'll always be the sexiest gal you know. The longer she is the one, the more you appreciate her.

[–] • 1 pt

Stop being a shallow asshole.

Grow the fuck up.

[–] • 1 pt

I guess it depends on the man.

Most will find something to replace the lust. Whether it be a hobby, a sports car, or something of that nature. However, some men need that chemistry in their life so they will either find something on the side, or will push for divorce.

Every once in a while, you will come across the guy who is happy to grow old and fat with their wife. Those men are a dieing breed.

[–] • 1 pt

My wife and I are only a couple of years younger than you, and our oldest child will be done school in 2 years. Neither of us look "old" (still get carded to buy booze). What does your wife eat? What kind of exercise does she do? I have a client coming up to 70 who is hotter than most 20 year olds out there. She eats right and works out daily. You wife should not be looking old in her 40s unless she doesn't take care of herself.

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