I stay away from toxic people. I've never found a way of dealing with them other than not being in their company.
I stay away from toxic people. I've never found a way of dealing with them other than not being in their company.
The best you can do is learn how to spot them as fast as possible.
Avoid all contact with them.
If you must have contact with them you need to use the grey rock method!
This is what to look out for!
https://files.catbox.moe/0386w2.JPG
And the grey rock method means you just act completely disinterested and give the shortest possible replies.
Since they love drama and need validation from others they will avoid you.
Calling them out is seen as a declaration of war by them. So if you do this learn their tactics first. They will come at you hard.
The best you can do is learn how to spot them as fast as possible.
Avoid all contact with them.
If you must have contact with them you need to use the grey rock method!
This is what to look out for!
https://files.catbox.moe/0386w2.JPG
And the grey rock method means you just act completely disinterested and give the shortest possible replies.
Since they love drama and need validation from others they will avoid you.
Calling them out is seen as a declaration of war by them. So if you do this learn their tactics first. They will come at you hard.
And the grey rock method means you just act completely disinterested and give the shortest possible replies.
I thought the "grey rock method" meant that you throw grey rocks at them.
> And the grey rock method means you just act completely disinterested and give the shortest possible replies.
I thought the "grey rock method" meant that you throw grey rocks at them.
I simply avoid everyone.
I simply avoid everyone.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=udtBg4uWZrU like a Japanese hikkimori?
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=udtBg4uWZrU like a Japanese hikkimori?
Hikikomori are based as fuck
Hikikomori are based as fuck
Unless they have an anus?
Unless they have an anus?
Beings other than humans have anuses...
Beings other than humans have anuses...
Only humans enjoy anal expansion. It hurts goats. Mohamed told me.
Only humans enjoy anal expansion. It hurts goats. Mohamed told me.
It's really difficult.
The most important thing to remember is that their behavior, comments, attitudes, whatever, aren't affected by you. There is zero you can do to improve their behavior. Even if you did everything perfectly as they would have wanted it to be, they will still be angry because they need to be angry to function.
It's a really difficult thing to remember. We have the tendency to think that others are rational, therefore if they are treating us in a certain way it is surely because we did something to earn it. With normal people this would be true. But with toxic people, they are in a pit of misery and need constant outlets for their overflow. Any excuse will do. They tripped? You're insufferable because you asked if they're ok. Clearly you're criticizing them because they're an adult and of course they're ok. You think a call dropped but they are too busy being annoyed that you're even on the phone, you ask if they're still there, and they snap at you as if you're unreasonable to verify the call didn't drop. It's a constant, abusive system of: you are always the problem. Try to address it and you get gas lighted.
There are times where you don't have a choice in dealing with these people. I'm sorry you found yourself in this situation. Mentally, I just keep busy and away from interaction as much as possible. I make sure I find satisfaction and achievement to offset the feeling of constant failure when dealing with this kind of person. It's extremely eroding, it kills the soul. Like a vampire. It has been a lot easier since I gave God the problem, but it is still difficult.
It's really difficult.
The most important thing to remember is that their behavior, comments, attitudes, whatever, aren't affected by *you.* There is zero you can do to improve their behavior. Even if you did everything perfectly as they would have wanted it to be, they will still be angry because they need to be angry to function.
It's a really difficult thing to remember. We have the tendency to think that others are rational, therefore if they are treating us in a certain way it is surely because we did something to earn it. With normal people this would be true. But with toxic people, they are in a pit of misery and need constant outlets for their overflow. Any excuse will do. They tripped? You're insufferable because you asked if they're ok. Clearly you're criticizing them because they're an adult and of course they're ok. You think a call dropped but they are too busy being annoyed that you're even on the phone, you ask if they're still there, and they snap at you as if you're unreasonable to verify the call didn't drop. It's a constant, abusive system of: you are always the problem. Try to address it and you get gas lighted.
There are times where you don't have a choice in dealing with these people. I'm sorry you found yourself in this situation. Mentally, I just keep busy and away from interaction as much as possible. I make sure I find satisfaction and achievement to offset the feeling of constant failure when dealing with this kind of person. It's extremely eroding, it kills the soul. Like a vampire. It has been a lot easier since I gave God the problem, but it is still difficult.
Stoicism is a good think to look into when unavoidably dealing with these NPCs every day. Meanwhile, prepare to move/remove them from your life.
Stoicism is a good think to look into when unavoidably dealing with these NPCs every day. Meanwhile, prepare to move/remove them from your life.
I don't associate with said trash.
I don't associate with said trash.
Get depression, but really hang in there.
Get depression, but really hang in there.
Distance yourself when you can, as little communication as possible when you must.
Distance yourself when you can, as little communication as possible when you must.
My in-laws who are also neighbors are one of the most negative narcissistic immoral psychopaths you can imagine and at the moment I can't get the restraining order I am planning on getting eventually.
After I started PMA lifestyle (positive mental attitude) its been easier to deal with them without the complete mental exhaustion afterwards. It took some practice but if you only say and think positives it stops their negativity in their tracks cause it straining even for them to constantly say something toxic to positivity.
Being positive is not expecting good things to happen, it's so embracing the bad in order to gain the good. After a while I noticed I stopped giving any time and energy even thinking about those fucked up people cause there is not anything positive to gain from it.
The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. Your time and energy even thinking about them gives them power and importance.
My in-laws who are also neighbors are one of the most negative narcissistic immoral psychopaths you can imagine and at the moment I can't get the restraining order I am planning on getting eventually.
After I started PMA lifestyle (positive mental attitude) its been easier to deal with them without the complete mental exhaustion afterwards. It took some practice but if you only say and think positives it stops their negativity in their tracks cause it straining even for them to constantly say something toxic to positivity.
Being positive is not expecting good things to happen, it's so embracing the bad in order to gain the good. After a while I noticed I stopped giving any time and energy even thinking about those fucked up people cause there is not anything positive to gain from it.
The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. Your time and energy even thinking about them gives them power and importance.
Day to day? Jesus I can't remember the last time I had to deal with it day to day, been probably 5 years or so. Don't waste a single breath or line of thought, I remember clear as day standing up in the middle of a circle of "friends" and walking out not saying a word and ghosting everyone and not even giving anyone any kind of explanation. You don't even have to say to them that you don't owe them an explanation. I still to this day do not know which one from that life ruined the environment of people but I do know nuking the whole thing and starting fresh confirmed there was indeed some type of toxic dynamics present across a wide range of people, don't miss it one bit
Day to day? Jesus I can't remember the last time I had to deal with it day to day, been probably 5 years or so. Don't waste a single breath or line of thought, I remember clear as day standing up in the middle of a circle of "friends" and walking out not saying a word and ghosting everyone and not even giving anyone any kind of explanation. You don't even have to say to them that you don't owe them an explanation. I still to this day do not know which one from that life ruined the environment of people but I do know nuking the whole thing and starting fresh confirmed there was indeed some type of toxic dynamics present across a wide range of people, don't miss it one bit
I have two really good friends like this. The guy I stopped talking to completely after warning him multiple times. The girl I turn into the "grey rock" when she is mistreating me and avoid her for awhile until she treats me right again. I disappear for a while every time she mistreats me. She tries to mend her ways but eventually reverts.
I have two really good friends like this. The guy I stopped talking to completely after warning him multiple times. The girl I turn into the "grey rock" when she is mistreating me and avoid her for awhile until she treats me right again. I disappear for a while every time she mistreats me. She tries to mend her ways but eventually reverts.
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