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Im a widower, been so for a few years. I got out of a relationship, and i feel like my entire life is hopeless now. This woman ingrained it into my head that being a widower is worst than having cancer, and that she was "settling" with me. I've come to believe, that since then, and since finding christ, she may actually be right. I'm young, I'm not particularly interesting, and my entire past is morbid and dark. So realistically, im thinking my dating life may in fact just be over at this point.

Im a widower, been so for a few years. I got out of a relationship, and i feel like my entire life is hopeless now. This woman ingrained it into my head that being a widower is worst than having cancer, and that she was "settling" with me. I've come to believe, that since then, and since finding christ, she may actually be right. I'm young, I'm not particularly interesting, and my entire past is morbid and dark. So realistically, im thinking my dating life may in fact just be over at this point.

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[–] • 11 pts

Be the change you want to see in the world. You're "not particularly interesting" by your own design. Go feed the homeless. Stand out on the corner with a sign. Sleep on the street for a night. Go hunting. Write a book. fix you.

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lol do NOT feed the homeless and do NOT spend a night on the street. That is horrible advice. Go combine sleeping rough with hunting or something.

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Widowers have better market value than divorcees.

The market is tough but don't give up. There is someone out there for you.

That women was a cunt and like most women don't frankly know what they are saying.

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Came to say this. Divorcee's are out of the question for a lot of women but widowers definitely aren't. Your ex said that just to hurt you, I'm not here to make you feel better I just thought that was a completely retarded thing for someone to say and felt like you should know that's not the case.

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just making sure you see this

[–] [deleted] • 5 pts

Never settle for some dumb bitch who says she is settling for you, nor her toxic opinions.

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, and since finding christ, she may actually be right

You think God wants you to feel hopeless and alone?

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bump

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The bible makes very little reference to what widowers are supposed to do. Based of my limited readings, its either remarry, or never date again. There's many mentions of widows but not widowers from what i can tell

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That is because, while still the book on the christian religion, is stilla book written by men. Historically, and still today, widowers are far fewer than widows.

Men live more dangerous lives in general, we take up the profession of war at a far greater scale. Men die earlier in life then women. (many say its because we want to at the end of things)

So the problem of the widower, wasnt addressed, because its not a common issue, even was less common in those days.

You need to do you. Stop looking for a partner, be you, go out and enjoy yourself. Find some good social type hobbies you think you might enjoy. Go participate in those hobbies, conversations will sprout and relationships form and eventually you'll meet someone you share a mutual attraction with again.

The key to it. don't go desperately searching for a partner. just go out and enjoy life. Be seen enjoying life. Let that be your calling card.

Worst case scenario. You do end up not ever meeting anyone. You've lived a fulfilling life and enjoyed your time here.

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The bible makes very little reference to what widowers are supposed to do.

Well then use your own damned mind, bro. Anyway, if you want to marry again, you have to date first as this isn't the bronze age, and you can't just buy a wife from her father for 13 goats and a mule anymore.

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Then why ARE so many people just that?

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We live in a fallen world and the most wicked people want to keep us all down.

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We live in ClownWorld, and most people are fake and gay

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Show me your tits and I'll let you know.

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Xanax and Booze.

You'll be back on your feet in no time.

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I watched a movie that laid it all out recently, it was called Wrong Turn (2021). In it a man goes into the wilderness to escape the Satanist modern world, and forms a commune in the woods. This commune then makes its own laws, and lives off the land. It captures and murders everyone who comes near. As it happens he too is a widower, and was single for many years.

However luckily a super hot chick and her gross nigger friend show up, and the man sentences both of them to an unimaginable fate. But just before carrying out their sentence she totally married the man and thus he wasn't alone anymore.

You're welcome.

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Take care of yourself by first starting to eat better. Cook your own meals with fresh clean meats and veggies, drink good quality milk, fruit juices and water. Start exercising- even if it's as simple as running in place. By a couple dumb bells (sp) and lift every day. Turn that fucking television off. Start going to church temple or um, synagogue. Don't let anyone own you or define you. you are your own worst enemy or your own best friend. Take care of yourself and before you realize it, you will find someone that loves you.

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>This woman ingrained it into my head that being a widower is worst than having cancer

The majority of us are having way less interactions these days. Seeing only a fraction of what we did over a year ago. I too have noticed people you think are supposed to be your friend saying shit that gets under your skin.

Stop talking to this person and if you have to don't let them get preachy with you. They are toxic and their method of attack is 'White Magic'.

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Get a cat or eight .

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That person sounds they they wanted to keep you down. Good that you walked away.

In terms of being attractive to the opposite sex: - On average, women peak at 18. - On average, men peak at 50.

So, as a male you don't need to settle.

But, you need to fix yourself first. Have a stable job, get fit, be clean, go volunteer at a youth sports league .. show that you are kind and good with kids. You will have no issues finding someone.

Double bonus is that you are in church. I know in my church the number of available women over the age of 25 is about 10X vs. men.

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