Ok psychologist chess players, help me analyze this email response from an ex.

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Trying to read into her response, no good. I can't tell if she's just being polite but not willing to engage. Perhaps she's married? I leave it for exactly one month later Feb 25, I email her asking how she's doing. Bring up a drunken car accident we had in the 90's. She responds 4 days later.

>I'm doing well. In college and graduating June 26th. How are u doing?

I say,

>Congrats! What did you study? Your kid must be all grown up and out on his own by now too, or close to it. I'm doing alright but it could be better. I've had a contracting business for 10 years and this covid crap is putting a lid on things. I decided to try my luck at panning for gold in the Fraser river near Hope this morning. No luck.

She responds with,

>I've always loved you. Dumb eh?

Ok, that was definitely not expected AT ALL. Brain goes into overdrive. Chessboard thinking. Why would she just say that and not engage in the small talk? My back goes up thinking this is a trap. I recall how clever she was and I don't want to give her too much information. So I just email her back and ask if she feels like chatting for a bit. No response.

Something seems off. Something very peculiar about this. Why would you not engage, at least say what she studied. I only knew she had a kid because that was back around 2003 or so when she told me, could be a lie. She never asked me any questions at all either except for "How are u doing?"

So what gives? There can only be a few logical responses. She's still a psycho. She's hooked up with someone. She also never apologized for that scathing email 15 years ago.

And before you ask why the fuck I'm even trying to engage with her after all the woes she caused me. I don't know. That was a long time ago and I know despite the challenges, we both made lasting imprints on each other. We have a history.

So why would a girl just skip the small talk, skip normal conversation, skip even saying more than a few words, but drop that bomb? What gives?

Quick backstory 1993-1997 I live with a girl who we both made large impacts on each other's lives. It was a tough relationship, lots of drama and she did some very bad things to me. 2000-2005 We're online friends but that dissolves after she thoroughly trashed me. The email was so bad I kept it to read any time I needed a reminder never to contact her again. 2017 - She emails me out of the blue that she has a dream about me. We talk very succinctly, she doesn't type more than a few words. Can barely get a conversation. Find out she hates Trump, don't email her again. Jan 26/21 - I'm thinking about her again so I email her a tv show we used to watch "Remember this?" She responds with just "yep" Trying to read into her response, no good. I can't tell if she's just being polite but not willing to engage. Perhaps she's married? I leave it for exactly one month later Feb 25, I email her asking how she's doing. Bring up a drunken car accident we had in the 90's. She responds 4 days later. >>I'm doing well. In college and graduating June 26th. How are u doing? I say, >>Congrats! What did you study? Your kid must be all grown up and out on his own by now too, or close to it. I'm doing alright but it could be better. I've had a contracting business for 10 years and this covid crap is putting a lid on things. I decided to try my luck at panning for gold in the Fraser river near Hope this morning. No luck. She responds with, >>I've always loved you. Dumb eh? Ok, that was definitely not expected AT ALL. Brain goes into overdrive. Chessboard thinking. Why would she just say that and not engage in the small talk? My back goes up thinking this is a trap. I recall how clever she was and I don't want to give her too much information. So I just email her back and ask if she feels like chatting for a bit. No response. Something seems off. Something very peculiar about this. Why would you not engage, at least say what she studied. I only knew she had a kid because that was back around 2003 or so when she told me, could be a lie. She never asked me any questions at all either except for "How are u doing?" So what gives? There can only be a few logical responses. She's still a psycho. She's hooked up with someone. She also never apologized for that scathing email 15 years ago. And before you ask why the fuck I'm even trying to engage with her after all the woes she caused me. I don't know. That was a long time ago and I know despite the challenges, we both made lasting imprints on each other. We have a history. So why would a girl just skip the small talk, skip normal conversation, skip even saying more than a few words, but drop that bomb? What gives?

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