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I’ve been bit of a codependent slut much of my life for the usual reasons. Falling for crazy and hot and young because that’s what was around and I basically wanted attention. I was also a jackass and a man child. I own it. I woke up to God, who I speak to on a daily basis, a few years ago. It’s a new life and I’m trying to recalibrate. I’ve met someone sensible and lovely and reasonable and funny. It’s a better life I’m leading. I want to live this way, not the way I was living where I dealt with women like they were heroin. Only thing is, I’m used to a different intensity of emotion and it eats at me that I’m not all smitten all the time. I’m way to old for that shit, though. Any words of advice from those old goats with good relationships?
I just explained to her that the Biden administration is filled with dual citizens and she took it in stride. I can’t fuck this up.

I’ve been bit of a codependent slut much of my life for the usual reasons. Falling for crazy and hot and young because that’s what was around and I basically wanted attention. I was also a jackass and a man child. I own it. I woke up to God, who I speak to on a daily basis, a few years ago. It’s a new life and I’m trying to recalibrate. I’ve met someone sensible and lovely and reasonable and funny. It’s a better life I’m leading. I want to live this way, not the way I was living where I dealt with women like they were heroin. Only thing is, I’m used to a different intensity of emotion and it eats at me that I’m not all smitten all the time. I’m way to old for that shit, though. Any words of advice from those old goats with good relationships? I just explained to her that the Biden administration is filled with dual citizens and she took it in stride. I can’t fuck this up.

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"Romantic Love" is natures way of keeping a couple together long enough to reproduce - and that's about it. Physical repulsion is a relationship problem, whereas not "feeling in love" is daydreaming like a silly teenager.

Men are lifelong children in that they never stop craving for the emotional lift that came with Mommie's love for them. Think about that for a minute or two. A mother's love comes from security, commitment and responsibility - it's lifelong and pushes you forward towards life. Provide an environment that will allow your wife to provide that for your children -- don't be a petulant, whiny teenager that she has to worry is out looking for that temporary hormonal fix if she's not playing a romantic lead role at all times.

You are literally complaining about not having a temporary hormonal state as part of a long term partnership. If you can't deal with not feeling "in lust at all times", how are you going to deal with the real rough spots and hard times that occur in all lifetime relationships?

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Read this a second and third time because the first time hurt my fee fees. Makes tremendous sense what you said about a mother’s love and how we seek it out in life. My sibling and I have both sought out and fallen for manipulative junkies habitually. Anything else doesn’t feel like love. It must be wonderful to have a healthy human being seem sexy. I’m just trying to bridge the gap between what I seek and what I need. More importantly, what my children will need. I’m gonna think on this more

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Sounds like an excellent plan. I wish you the best of luck and patience. Also one more piece of advice - and the most important: make certain the person you end up with wants the same type of long term future (children, lifestyle, locales) as you. If that puzzle piece matches up, most everything else can be worked though.