Look up limerence.
It is the emotional reaction to "love" or attention, and that "puppy love" type period. Everyone gets it. It wears off.
Limerence keeps you from making logical, rational decisions for a time, and when it wears off you start to notice more.
The less time you spend in limerence and truly discuss where the relationship is going, the faster the "yes/no" decisions appear.
Thanks. I will.
Finally looked into this.
Thank you for introducing me to this concept. Really. What an eye opener.
No problem.
It really should be taught more when trying to find someone to marry. Getting married in the "puppy love" phase tends to results in more problems in the future.
In the past, with arranged marriages, there really wasn't a limerence phase, and discussions were much more rational and reached a pretty solid conclusion - resulting in marriages that tended to be for life.
If more young people were aware of limerence, the discussions could try to account for that, leading to easier decisions.
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