"every parent I know is miserable" yes it sounds like you hang out with brainwashed people as well, who just didn't get it as bad as you and managed to have kids but have the completely wrong outlook towards them, they probably treat their kids with envy and scorn and the children see this and in return don't respect their parents, making them miserable. It's really not hard to grasp...the very concept of family is an all important one, the very fact you think it's your own "naturally" held belief that family doesn't mean anything to you is a testament to how successful the jew has been in brainwashing people away from constructive family units.