Finally LOST any desire for alcohol (pretty much EVERY weekend since teens). 4 times (experiment) in last year (SAME effect each time as the first). Last one was over 15 weeks ago. I count weeks. Thought makes me "nauseous". Suddenly I SEE the NEGATIVE impacts (pop culture doesn't mention really) on my life. Cleaning the cage.
That’s great bro. I stopped drinking 4 years ago and haven’t looked back. It’s an important step in cleansing the temple.
Same here. The thought of getting drunk or high has lost all its appeal.
Yup, we have work to do.
I cut back big time indont give into jew lies about it being a disease.. I went to Germany in early 2000s and they drank a ton and was one of the cleanest most productive group of people I have seen you neednto set the terms with your drinking and do it on your own terms. 100% no drinking seems as weird to me as drinking every day.. anyways my two cents
I call it cleaning the cage. Early stages I guess. Looking around, surely doesn't LOOK like a temple at this point. Cage.
Good stuff, I'm sure nobody ever talks about how being reliant on drugs like alcohol to have fun stunts personal development in a way, because over time you forget how to be fun without drugs doing the hard work for you.
Same thing for me, crazy shroom trip made me realize how possible quitting smoking is, and how I actually feared getting drunk all this time, just never realized it consciously
Crap I don't do drugs and I forgot how to have fun.
drugs just makes it worse
There's different KINDS of fun (VERY diverse). Destruction fun isn't fun, it's an illusion. Something Satan likes to pull on peopls then LAUGH at the misery it causes some if not most. JUST like fornication. JUST like lying. JUST like stealing.
Good stuff. I quit alcohol Nov 3rd. Still not easy, but I do get a lot more things done around our little farm.
About the same here, it's a better life.
Congrats brother.
It happened over time. Sounds like you're not THERE yet. I just wanted to say, It was a sort of long time coming. cut back first...then suddenly one week between drinks stretched to 2, to 3 to 4 to 8, now just drinking experimentally (NOT desire or urge) to see if what was happening was still happening. then 15...or more (lost count). Worried a little about christmas and new years, then just forgot about it.
an there's something else I can't accurately define yet. Not as simple as smarter, or energetic...but a combination of a LOT of things. One thing, you have no reason to feel regretful or guilty of things you might have said or done to those around you. I think that alone frees up some energy in your brain, energy you can use elsewhere in life BUT YOU WEREN'T. Also the people you have disdain for (your fellow drinkers and their attitude towards YOU afterwards) and the people you formerly had disdain for, but now admire. Amazing THEIR (both groups) reaction to the new YOU. That is encouraging. Like a sea change or course correction that IMPROVES the handling of your yacht in rough seas (given almost always).
I don’t know if it’s possible for me to get smarter...hahah. My wife and I have had relationships with alcohol for 30 years. Though more drinking to excess had taken place since the fake pandemic. I went back on a Keto diet to loose my covid weight, and it won’t work if your consuming alcohol. So that was my motivation. I certainly feel better overall. We rarely leave our little farm, other than absolutely necessary. We carry no guilt, there are spiritual components that were not mentioned in your comment, so I’ll lay low on that too. Getting drunk was just a part of my routine. It’s so destructive. Good analogy about sailing. Also so true about changing course. We’ve lived on sailboats, and sailed many trips. Every boat has its favorite point of sail, and sea. Thanks for the encouraging words. Now if I could only stop the crystal...ha ha ha. (Joking).
Awesome to hear bro!! I've had couple good stints (9 months completely sober, 5 months only drinking weekends and no work nights) but have regressed lately due to pandemic lockdown and not being able to work.
I keep telling myself to stop thinking big picture (world, country, state) and focus on myself first, then family, then community etc. It's always easier to tell yourself something than to take action. Have done 2x5 day binges of non-stop drinking. The dryouts are never fun but here I am.
To answer OPs question my good news is I purchased my first house 3 months ago and once lockdowns lift I can work from home.
If you have difficult cravings, I have two ideas that might help you.
1) Recognize that your desire to drink compulsively is not your desire. It is your addiction, or a hole you are seeking to fill speaking as you. It isn't something you want, that's why you regret it after, because you think you want it, but the truth is your body wants it.
2) Temperature Shocking. I have no idea if this works, or is an established technique, but I find it to work wonders for nicotine withdrawal symptoms. Start by wearing coats so hot you can barely handle it. When it's too much to bear, take your coats off and go into the coldest environment you can as fast as possible. It feels really good and seems to make the tingles and cravings lessen.
You can do the latter by hopping in a sauna and then jumping in an ice-cold lake (or if you don't have an ice cold lake, a cold shower).
Yeah get rid of the urge. My urge disappeared because of how DEPRESSED I suddenly started getting the day after. NOT just the usual hangover, DEPRESSION..stay in bed all day.
OOH. I'd look at what I posted the previous night (never did that before really) on voat. DEFINATE difference in demeanor (not in a good way). SHAME. REGRET.
Do it for you (my suggestion in MY case)...not guilted into it like (for the family, town, world, etc). ALL of that comes along for the ride when you quit. Do it because it makes YOU feel BAD instead of GOOD (like you wanted). Depressed, regretful, etc. Get rid of the URGE, desire. It started making me DEPRESSED (next day) so BAD, that I didn't want to do it again because of that feeling. That gives way eventually to just not thinking about it. If you do, doesn't appear as an option of any value.
Stop porn and mistreating. It will be boring at first then you will start to look forward to working out doing work making your life and others lives around you better. Get bored need something to do? Ask a friend or neighbor if they need help with something and go do it expecting nothing in return.. u will feel good about it
Learn to fly WW2 fighters and build one from scratch in your basement. Then make crank calls to Japan.
How long did it take to lose desire? I quit for 6 months a while back and never felt better. I gotta buckle down and just do it. I’m so much more productive, feel a lot better, and think a lot better when I’m not drinking, even a week after.
over time. DEPRESSION...the thought of that happening suddenly made me think twice before drinking (NEVER had that before). 2 weeks (betwen drinks) stretched into 4, then 8 (experimental (NOT desire, but traditional times) happened 4 times. Same DEPRESSION (day after)...stay in bed all day, etc.
happened over time is what I'm saying. desire just faded away. to nonexistent. If I do think about it, it doesn't appear to be a valid option, based, I guess, in part, on how I've BENEFITED (intangibly) I think, but STILL the "fear" of that DEPRESSION the day after (if thoughts GET that far). I STILL have alcohol in the house.
Congrats dude, glad you are doing a lot better. Dump that poison in the house down the drain. You aren't going to use it. I never spent the day in bed but I have definitely wasted plenty of days.
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