I’m sorry you were served “shit dinner”. Hopefully that means crap junk food and not just a brat refusing to eat his vegetables. Also, do you have children? Perhaps it’s a male vs female perspective, and yes, there is such a thing as tough love, but withholding 10 days of food from your child is so counter intuitive to a parent (mom’s perspective) that it never enters the realm of possibility. There are plenty of alternate motivators. While I don’t disagree that hunger is a powerful motivator, in this hypothetical situation, it is most certainly abuse.