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I'm not one to ask for advice but I'm genuinely curious to hear what you NiggerFaggots would do.

Basically my exgf left me when she was pregnant with our son and never spoke to me until recently. By now he's 18 months old. I seen him and my ex at Xmas time and my son never knew who I was and my exgf was being a bitch to me and never even got me anything for Xmas. The point is, it didn't feel like a real family, but whenever I say this everybody tells me I'm wrong and that it's still a real family. To me it's not though and it was a depressing situation to put myself in. I had to sit around and see the family I could have had. I got to see my son who didn't even know who I was. I had to be around my ex who treated me like shit and didn't even get me an Xmas present. That's not family. I'm being told I can see my son once a week which isn't enough to be a real dad.

Basically it has come down to me realizing that I'll never be able to have a real family and therefore will never be satisfied with life and wish to kill myself as a result of this. I know for a fact that I'll never be able to have a real family and nor will my son.

I'm not one to ask for advice but I'm genuinely curious to hear what you NiggerFaggots would do. Basically my exgf left me when she was pregnant with our son and never spoke to me until recently. By now he's 18 months old. I seen him and my ex at Xmas time and my son never knew who I was and my exgf was being a bitch to me and never even got me anything for Xmas. The point is, it didn't feel like a real family, but whenever I say this everybody tells me I'm wrong and that it's still a real family. To me it's not though and it was a depressing situation to put myself in. I had to sit around and see the family I could have had. I got to see my son who didn't even know who I was. I had to be around my ex who treated me like shit and didn't even get me an Xmas present. That's not family. I'm being told I can see my son once a week which isn't enough to be a real dad. Basically it has come down to me realizing that I'll never be able to have a real family and therefore will never be satisfied with life and wish to kill myself as a result of this. I know for a fact that I'll never be able to have a real family and nor will my son.

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[–] • 2 pts

First of all, don’t kill yourself please.

There are details that need to be known in order to give proper advice.

Things such as, why did you guys break up? Do you still like her? Is she single?

If you want to see your son more, you need to communicate that to her, and really explain why it’s important for you to be there more for you son. If you want to get back together or feel you should for the kid, you need to convey that properly.

None of that is going to happen until you become man enough to make it happen. And no offense at all, it doesn’t appear you’re in an “Alpha” position right now.

When you become the best you can be, you will be able to do anything you want. Be there as much as you can for your kid. But you need to be there more for yourself right now.

Focus on you first. The kid is 18 months old, and no one even remembers that time of their life. If you spend the time now to focus on self improvement, you’ll be able to be the best dad in the world in his eyes someday.

BROTHER YOU GOT THIS.

[–] • 0 pt

Honestly, I think the best solution is to simply divert all my time, energy and money into starting a new family which will inevitably help me forget about the fake shitty old family I had. That's all ai can do.

[–] • 1 pt

I was tempted to suggest that but it’s morally incorrect.

You made the decision to risk having, and subsequently having a kid. You don’t just get to bail out because you can’t wrangle your bitch of an exgf.

You can do what makes you feel better now, but considering the fact you said you want to be there for the kid and make it right....you will never live that down.

And besides, what makes you think you’re not going to run into any similar problems with a different girl?

[–] • 0 pt

Self preservation gives no fucks about morality. That's all I can say. It's better to bail than to commit suicide. The kid doesn't even know I'm his dad and so there's no loss to him. She can find another guy to he his dad. If starting a new family doesn't work out I'll just blow my head off lol.

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Or I plant fentanyl or a gun in her car one day and call the cops on her and have her locked up and thus get custody.