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Suppose that, in comparison to another individual, you have your shit together. This individual may be an acquaintance who has struggled with life, may have mental issues, alcohol issues, or the like but never made a whole lot of progress.

More than once have I stayed out of the fray when people I know have gone through shit. Like Casablanca, "I stick my neck out for nobody." I don't expect help should I have difficulties and I'd feel worse if people I knew had to deal with it. A bit of Hedgehog's Dilemma.

Maybe the discussion will spur more thoughts

Suppose that, in comparison to another individual, you have your shit together. This individual may be an acquaintance who has struggled with life, may have mental issues, alcohol issues, or the like but never made a whole lot of progress. More than once have I stayed out of the fray when people I know have gone through shit. Like Casablanca, "I stick my neck out for nobody." I don't expect help should I have difficulties and I'd feel worse if people I knew had to deal with it. A bit of Hedgehog's Dilemma. Maybe the discussion will spur more thoughts

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[–] • 2 pts

I have. My older sister. Long story short she will never change. Feminism got her and its never letting go. She has 3 different kids from 2 fathers one is gone the other is attempting to ruin her even more than she already is. She is on welfare and can't keep off drugs. There isn't any saving her I believe its mental illness and I think most here would agree.

[–] • 1 pt (edited )

It depends is my answer. I've been down and out based on unforseen circumstances and family helped us (newborn baby in NICU, two months later husband falls 9 feet breaking 5 ribs at competing job and looses his main job, during catscans from accident find my husband has stage 1 kidney cancer he is out of work for two years for surgeries -- our $30K in savings gone over night, the $100K income gone over night, coupled with high cost of living in CA and bring sied for medical bills while on Obumercare we were evicted and homeless with two kids it happens fast). So I won't deny help to people, as long as they are trying.

However, if they are clearly making harmful choices to self-destruct (like drugs, alcohol, promiscuous lifestyle) and are not seeking treatment or improvement, than I won't help them because they are not treating the root of the problem.

[–] • 1 pt

Yes many times and not regret it.