I think in today's world, you're not seeking permission to marry their daughter but giving them the courtesy of telling them before hand.
Even though I agree with many many things about the traditional lifestyle I highly disagree with seeking permission to marry another grown adult.
I will reverse the question. Do you think if you asked the father would say no? Would you still date her and continue to seek marriage if his answer is no.
It is just a formality. I'm going to marry her regardless of his answer.
Then buy the ring!
A think it's a very nice gesture to include the parents and it sets a good foundation for the future. I wouldn't include them that much in advance. I would only let that conversation air out for no later then a week. Don't put her mom in state of excitement and have to wait long.
Also, have you considered going the non diamond route or even considered synthetic gems?
One more thought by the way, have you ever talked marriage to your girlfriend? Is she on board for marriage? Have you talked out money, religion and how to handle other life issues? Prepping for marriage should be somewhat unsexy and very blunt. Don't take lightly the gravity of what you are about to enter. The movies make you think that you buy the ring and have a wedding and everything just works out. That's bullshit, the act of marriage is tough and long and if you haven't had the foundation talks with your partner you are not prepared for the future.
We've talked to great length about marriage. She is the one. I am not a fan of synthetic diamonds. I searched and searched for blood diamonds but couldn't find any advertised. It would please me to know niggers died for my wife's ring.
Couldn't agree more. Marriage will take work and isn't always roses and puppies.
This - go ahead and get the ring if Dad's consent will not influence the final decision.
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