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ive been my moms primary caretaker for years, not getting paid for it, but living with her for the past six years, sunday she died in the hospital (she went in for a uti and they kept her there for heart failure, which she had 2 heart attacks so not unexpected) but since she didnt leave a will or anything. how do i keep our childhood home? just take up paying the bills? or....what. ive been talking to her friend and know moms wishes but she never wrote any of them down or got them notorized. she wanted me to keep the house and all her posessions (because my sisters when she was alive was always absent in our lives until they needed a hand out) any advice?

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i tried to comment on all of you but it keeps giving me a timer to wait and it keeps getting longer and longer. i usually just lurk on poal and nobody i know irl knew what to do. so thank you all for the advice, and the kind words.

ive been my moms primary caretaker for years, not getting paid for it, but living with her for the past six years, sunday she died in the hospital (she went in for a uti and they kept her there for heart failure, which she had 2 heart attacks so not unexpected) but since she didnt leave a will or anything. how do i keep our childhood home? just take up paying the bills? or....what. ive been talking to her friend and know moms wishes but she never wrote any of them down or got them notorized. she wanted me to keep the house and all her posessions (because my sisters when she was alive was always absent in our lives until they needed a hand out) any advice? thanks for the replies. i tried to comment on all of you but it keeps giving me a timer to wait and it keeps getting longer and longer. i usually just lurk on poal and nobody i know irl knew what to do. so thank you all for the advice, and the kind words.

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Had a friend go through this. He called the bank the house was financed through and continued payments as normal, and worked with them. Because he had "squatters rights" and rights to the estate, being one of the next of kin, the property couldn't be sold and he couldn't be evicted as long as payments were made. Work with the bank, and hire an estate lawyer if you can afford it. Tell your siblings to take anything they want for memorabilia, keep it civil. You were there and took care of her. You have the fondest memories that your siblings don't have. Keep that as your inheritance, and live in your home as normal. I'm sorry for your loss