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ive been my moms primary caretaker for years, not getting paid for it, but living with her for the past six years, sunday she died in the hospital (she went in for a uti and they kept her there for heart failure, which she had 2 heart attacks so not unexpected) but since she didnt leave a will or anything. how do i keep our childhood home? just take up paying the bills? or....what. ive been talking to her friend and know moms wishes but she never wrote any of them down or got them notorized. she wanted me to keep the house and all her posessions (because my sisters when she was alive was always absent in our lives until they needed a hand out) any advice?

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i tried to comment on all of you but it keeps giving me a timer to wait and it keeps getting longer and longer. i usually just lurk on poal and nobody i know irl knew what to do. so thank you all for the advice, and the kind words.

ive been my moms primary caretaker for years, not getting paid for it, but living with her for the past six years, sunday she died in the hospital (she went in for a uti and they kept her there for heart failure, which she had 2 heart attacks so not unexpected) but since she didnt leave a will or anything. how do i keep our childhood home? just take up paying the bills? or....what. ive been talking to her friend and know moms wishes but she never wrote any of them down or got them notorized. she wanted me to keep the house and all her posessions (because my sisters when she was alive was always absent in our lives until they needed a hand out) any advice? thanks for the replies. i tried to comment on all of you but it keeps giving me a timer to wait and it keeps getting longer and longer. i usually just lurk on poal and nobody i know irl knew what to do. so thank you all for the advice, and the kind words.

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It will go through probate court and you'll all receive 1/3 of her total estate (house/car/bank account/investments/etc). If your sisters are nice, they may be willing to give up part of their share in light of your care for your mother or may be amenable to greater shares of the cash in exchange for letting you keep all of the house. If they aren't nice, you'll be forced to liquidate all the assets and split the cash three ways.

If you're concerned they may be...not nice...decide how much that is worth to you now rather than in the heat of the moment. If your sisters are hellspawned harpies, you may be willing to blow up the family in an estate fight. Or you may prefer to maintain your relationship with them over receiving a dime, or somewhere in the middle.

LPT: Write a will. Put a POD on your bank account. Explicitly declare beneficiaries on your accounts. Leave a way to get access to your phone and passwords if you die (even if that's a safe deposit box where you have to show up with a death certificate). Dont do what OP's mom did and leave everything in probate limbo for +6 months and thousands of dollars in court costs.