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I need to know how to fix my relationship with my fiance. i was texting two women, one from online i have never met and another from work. it never went beyond "sexting". i realized what i was doing was stupid so after a couple of weeks i decided no more. i cut it off with one of the women but before i could tell the other, my wife saw an old text on my phone i forgot to erase. then she found saved nudes. i seriously caught myself going down the wrong path but before i could fix it i got caught. i don't want my wife to leave me. i love her but just got gradually caught up in the thrill. i feel like such a piece of shit. we have such a good thing going and i fucked it up. i am trying to make an appointment for couples therapy but i don't know if she is willing to go yet. amy advice is greatly appreciated.

Edit: UPDATE: I did as some of you said. I stopped apologizing and was brutally honest with her. We had a long discussion and were going to work things out. We figured out some things and identified things that need work. I will never do anything like this to someone I care about again. Also I'm going to finally put the paperwork through and make this woman my wife. Thank you all for the help and advice.

I need to know how to fix my relationship with my fiance. i was texting two women, one from online i have never met and another from work. it never went beyond "sexting". i realized what i was doing was stupid so after a couple of weeks i decided no more. i cut it off with one of the women but before i could tell the other, my wife saw an old text on my phone i forgot to erase. then she found saved nudes. i seriously caught myself going down the wrong path but before i could fix it i got caught. i don't want my wife to leave me. i love her but just got gradually caught up in the thrill. i feel like such a piece of shit. we have such a good thing going and i fucked it up. i am trying to make an appointment for couples therapy but i don't know if she is willing to go yet. amy advice is greatly appreciated. Edit: UPDATE: I did as some of you said. I stopped apologizing and was brutally honest with her. We had a long discussion and were going to work things out. We figured out some things and identified things that need work. I will never do anything like this to someone I care about again. Also I'm going to finally put the paperwork through and make this woman my wife. Thank you all for the help and advice.

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Bro, you have a good woman and a kid, yet you are afraid to get married and lock it down and your outlet (in regards to that fear maybe) is sexting other women? Figure out your values. You're pretty much living married life minus having it on paper. Are you afraid of marriage? Is there something about your relationship now that you can't handle or don't want? Is that why you have delayed so long despite having kids together? You need to ask yourself these things and listen to those deep answers whether you "like" the true answer or not. Then TALK TO your significant other about all of it. Don't filter yourself. Put it all out there and let her see what is going on in your mind. Communication is key and will start to build trust again. Or, ultimately cut your losses if that is what you decide and leave. Either way, quit keeping your child and SO in purgatory and make a decision. It's not fair to any of you to keep living in a bubble of instability, indecision, and possibly infidelity. You've got the balls to make some calls. Use them.