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I need to know how to fix my relationship with my fiance. i was texting two women, one from online i have never met and another from work. it never went beyond "sexting". i realized what i was doing was stupid so after a couple of weeks i decided no more. i cut it off with one of the women but before i could tell the other, my wife saw an old text on my phone i forgot to erase. then she found saved nudes. i seriously caught myself going down the wrong path but before i could fix it i got caught. i don't want my wife to leave me. i love her but just got gradually caught up in the thrill. i feel like such a piece of shit. we have such a good thing going and i fucked it up. i am trying to make an appointment for couples therapy but i don't know if she is willing to go yet. amy advice is greatly appreciated.

Edit: UPDATE: I did as some of you said. I stopped apologizing and was brutally honest with her. We had a long discussion and were going to work things out. We figured out some things and identified things that need work. I will never do anything like this to someone I care about again. Also I'm going to finally put the paperwork through and make this woman my wife. Thank you all for the help and advice.

I need to know how to fix my relationship with my fiance. i was texting two women, one from online i have never met and another from work. it never went beyond "sexting". i realized what i was doing was stupid so after a couple of weeks i decided no more. i cut it off with one of the women but before i could tell the other, my wife saw an old text on my phone i forgot to erase. then she found saved nudes. i seriously caught myself going down the wrong path but before i could fix it i got caught. i don't want my wife to leave me. i love her but just got gradually caught up in the thrill. i feel like such a piece of shit. we have such a good thing going and i fucked it up. i am trying to make an appointment for couples therapy but i don't know if she is willing to go yet. amy advice is greatly appreciated. Edit: UPDATE: I did as some of you said. I stopped apologizing and was brutally honest with her. We had a long discussion and were going to work things out. We figured out some things and identified things that need work. I will never do anything like this to someone I care about again. Also I'm going to finally put the paperwork through and make this woman my wife. Thank you all for the help and advice.

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  1. Therapy.
    Not couples therapy, ‘you’ therapy. This is a you issue. Look for a decent therapist in your area that fits your personality. Check out Psychology Today and other resources. Before you move further you need to figure out what it is in you that had you trawling for women outside of your relationship. I have no idea what your story is. What your childhood was like, your parents and their relationship. But I am going to guess there is enough there that it is manifesting itself in this behavior.
    You are no good to yourself, let alone a future spouse, if you have unprocessed junk in your history. Fix you first.

  2. On the relationship front, I’m not sure what advice I could give you. You were engaged to be married and there are enough teething pains with a new marriage as it is without having to deal with long standing infidelity right at the get go. I have no vested interest with blowing smoke up your ass, you very likely have burned this one. I could be wrong, but if it is to stand a chance you need to get to the root of the problem, which is you.

I wish the best for both of you and hope you can find the healing you need to move forward.

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Thank you

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Np, honestly hope things work out for you, whichever way it goes. Even if this relationship fails. We all fuck up, and very often we fuck up for a reason. The trick is to learn and grow. Find yourself a good therapist and build yourself a better future.