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I need to know how to fix my relationship with my fiance. i was texting two women, one from online i have never met and another from work. it never went beyond "sexting". i realized what i was doing was stupid so after a couple of weeks i decided no more. i cut it off with one of the women but before i could tell the other, my wife saw an old text on my phone i forgot to erase. then she found saved nudes. i seriously caught myself going down the wrong path but before i could fix it i got caught. i don't want my wife to leave me. i love her but just got gradually caught up in the thrill. i feel like such a piece of shit. we have such a good thing going and i fucked it up. i am trying to make an appointment for couples therapy but i don't know if she is willing to go yet. amy advice is greatly appreciated.

Edit: UPDATE: I did as some of you said. I stopped apologizing and was brutally honest with her. We had a long discussion and were going to work things out. We figured out some things and identified things that need work. I will never do anything like this to someone I care about again. Also I'm going to finally put the paperwork through and make this woman my wife. Thank you all for the help and advice.

I need to know how to fix my relationship with my fiance. i was texting two women, one from online i have never met and another from work. it never went beyond "sexting". i realized what i was doing was stupid so after a couple of weeks i decided no more. i cut it off with one of the women but before i could tell the other, my wife saw an old text on my phone i forgot to erase. then she found saved nudes. i seriously caught myself going down the wrong path but before i could fix it i got caught. i don't want my wife to leave me. i love her but just got gradually caught up in the thrill. i feel like such a piece of shit. we have such a good thing going and i fucked it up. i am trying to make an appointment for couples therapy but i don't know if she is willing to go yet. amy advice is greatly appreciated. Edit: UPDATE: I did as some of you said. I stopped apologizing and was brutally honest with her. We had a long discussion and were going to work things out. We figured out some things and identified things that need work. I will never do anything like this to someone I care about again. Also I'm going to finally put the paperwork through and make this woman my wife. Thank you all for the help and advice.

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[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

Don't go to therapy. Find a marriage or relationship coach, they don't focus on problems but solutions. Or maybe a church based counsellor. Do NOT visit a therapist, and try to not let your woman visit one.

Get some relationship books. "Hold Me Tight" by Sue Johnson may serve you well, as it doesn't put all of the problems on you, it helps show that relationship issues are usually caused by both people, often inadvertently. That puts you two on the same level, and gets you out of the hole, without appearing weak.

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Awesome advice, thank you. I was looking at churches and marriage counseling specifically. I don't want drugs and I don't want to dwell on negative things. I want to fix what's broken and move on together.

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

You can, totally possible. Remember you're both imperfect, and remember YOU literally have to be emotionally strong enough for the both of you. Good luck!