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I need to know how to fix my relationship with my fiance. i was texting two women, one from online i have never met and another from work. it never went beyond "sexting". i realized what i was doing was stupid so after a couple of weeks i decided no more. i cut it off with one of the women but before i could tell the other, my wife saw an old text on my phone i forgot to erase. then she found saved nudes. i seriously caught myself going down the wrong path but before i could fix it i got caught. i don't want my wife to leave me. i love her but just got gradually caught up in the thrill. i feel like such a piece of shit. we have such a good thing going and i fucked it up. i am trying to make an appointment for couples therapy but i don't know if she is willing to go yet. amy advice is greatly appreciated.

Edit: UPDATE: I did as some of you said. I stopped apologizing and was brutally honest with her. We had a long discussion and were going to work things out. We figured out some things and identified things that need work. I will never do anything like this to someone I care about again. Also I'm going to finally put the paperwork through and make this woman my wife. Thank you all for the help and advice.

I need to know how to fix my relationship with my fiance. i was texting two women, one from online i have never met and another from work. it never went beyond "sexting". i realized what i was doing was stupid so after a couple of weeks i decided no more. i cut it off with one of the women but before i could tell the other, my wife saw an old text on my phone i forgot to erase. then she found saved nudes. i seriously caught myself going down the wrong path but before i could fix it i got caught. i don't want my wife to leave me. i love her but just got gradually caught up in the thrill. i feel like such a piece of shit. we have such a good thing going and i fucked it up. i am trying to make an appointment for couples therapy but i don't know if she is willing to go yet. amy advice is greatly appreciated. Edit: UPDATE: I did as some of you said. I stopped apologizing and was brutally honest with her. We had a long discussion and were going to work things out. We figured out some things and identified things that need work. I will never do anything like this to someone I care about again. Also I'm going to finally put the paperwork through and make this woman my wife. Thank you all for the help and advice.

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[–] • 6 pts

If you have plans to change, then change. If you don't, then don't. Don't do it "for her;" do it because it aligns with your values and convictions.

If you think you shouldn't be texting other women while married, then act accordingly.

If you think it's fine and you were only concerned because you might "get caught" then establish that understanding with her and move forward, either with or without her,

Either way, don't make a promise to change or do better when you don't actually have the intention to follow through with it.

Also, on a personal note, don't act like a fag and call your fiancé your wife. Either get married or don't, but don't play word games.

[–] • 0 pt

I do intend to change and I honestly know that I want the long term relationship with her. I feel like I was pulled in my temptation but was able to pull myself out, just not in time to save her the hurt. Also you're fucking right about me needing to marry her. I need to make it happen, can't lose this one.

[–] • 1 pt

Don’t go to therapy it’s a waste of time and they intentionally make the woman go against the man.

Don’t keep apologizing for what you did. Say you fucked up and stop doing it. Further tell her if she has an issue to break up. That’s it. You can’t go the rest of your life bringing this up. She either forgives you now or she doesn’t.