Reads like you were married to a frigid woman for a while. What kept you in the relationship as long as you were, because something tells me intimacy was probably not it.
Nope. Over about twenty years, I've known plenty of guys foolish enough to marry. A few stupid enough to marry before getting to test drive it, and did get stuck with an ice queen. Most got to pump some, before getting dumped, and having to pay the hefty price. I was always the playboy or womanizer, as it was called back then. Nowadays its 'chad' or 'PUA'. Pump and dump. Fuck em and forget em. Mostly a gal got three turns, then it was on to the next one. I was doing a married cougar regular over about a six month period, but that was as close to any sort of relationship I ever got, and no, the sort of "intimacy" you mean was never a part of it. I'd argue that sex itself is pretty dang intimate, but I'm aware of what you mean. I never had any desire for that stuff. Familiarity breeds contempt my stepdad always said, and with guys and gals I have always found it true. True in watching interactions between guys and gals that either married, or lived together, and true with my own limited interactions. I was only ever after the milk; I let the farmers buy and deal with the cow. From about the age of 19 til my sex drive went bye-bye in my late forties, I nailed at least 150 gals. Not a lot compared to someone like Warren Beatty or Hugh Hefner (their score is said to be in the thousands), but more than enough for me to get well acquainted with women, their tactics, tricks, feminine wiles, etc. So no, getting married was not required for me to see through the 'glamour' of gals. In the end its all a game, an adversarial game like chess, with a clear winner and loser. I knew that long before discovering MGTOW.
You read like an experienced guy. How long did your relationships usually last, assuming you were open to that sort of thing?
As said, it was usually two or three fucks, then on to the next gal. Experience proved that more than three times and she starts putting on pressure for fidelity, exclusivity, etc., then comes nagging for commitment/marriage. The married cougar I did a sorta fuckbuddy 'relationship' with for about six months. Hubby was straying, and she wanted someone he could not intimidate to invade his territory, and bring him back under her control. I was the object of jealousy, to make him want to stay married....and probably some revenge for him screwing around with young stuff. That was as close to any sort of relationship I ever got, or wanted to get. The more you come to know women, the more you realize you don't want to know them too well, or that's how it was with me. Too much manipulation, gamesmanship, shit-testing, etc., and bitches are very very cunning at it. Total airhead retards in most everything else, but each one has a Ph. D in Psyops.
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