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Not sure this is the right sub.

My parents and father in law died long ago, RIP. Wife and I are looking for a new home and considering getting one large enough for us to invite her mother to live with us.

She has physical limitations. An uninsured person of low character ran a red light and t-boned her car a couple years back. She sustained several ‘life-ending’ injuries but miraculously survived. A family friend moved in with her to act as caregiver, but that arrangement is over. Now the choices are either a nur$ing home or moving in with us.

I am family oriented and believe institutions can be a horror, but I am not sure we are equipped to provide what she needs since wife and I both work full time. Anyone have experience caring for an aged parent and willing to share your advice? Thanks.

Not sure this is the right sub. My parents and father in law died long ago, RIP. Wife and I are looking for a new home and considering getting one large enough for us to invite her mother to live with us. She has physical limitations. An uninsured person of low character ran a red light and t-boned her car a couple years back. She sustained several ‘life-ending’ injuries but miraculously survived. A family friend moved in with her to act as caregiver, but that arrangement is over. Now the choices are either a nur$ing home or moving in with us. I am family oriented and believe institutions can be a horror, but I am not sure we are equipped to provide what she needs since wife and I both work full time. Anyone have experience caring for an aged parent and willing to share your advice? Thanks.

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I appreciate you sharing your experience. She is not batshit crazy, but I am aware that she can push wife’s buttons easier than mine. She has chosen to be fairly isolated for thirty plus years so I am not sure she will be inclined to take advantage of the social aspects of a nursing home. You are also correct that we must plan now for our twilight years.